What does it take to make a 99 year old man who has been married for 80 years file for divorce? An affair…that happened 70 years ago. But should he let it go? First the facts: Antonio, 99, and his wife, Rosa, 96 met in the 1930’s when he was a Carabiniri officer. They have five children, a dozen grandchildren and one great-grandchild. But all this apparently did not stop Antonio, meaning that if the divorce goes through, they will be the oldest couple to ever divorce.
Antonio found letters that Rosa had written to her lover back in the 1940’s, showing the letters to his wife, he demanded a divorce. Rosa confessed her infidelity and thought she would be allowed to reconcile with her husband, but he did not give her that choice, since he immediately filed. 10 years ago the couple hit a rough patch and Antonio moved out, moving in with his son. The couple worked it out after some weeks and reunited. This Antonio sounds like a spitfire.
So, I looked around to see what people thought, should he have filed for divorce, or should he have let it go? A lot of the commentators on Time say “good for him, and she got what she deserved.”
Looking at both sides, Rosa obviously made a mistake, but at the end of the day, she chose her husband. She never left him and although it was very wrong, being with someone 80 years has to count for something.
The one aspect that makes it really intolerable, if we are going to beak it all up, is the fact that she never told him. Had she told him..would he had stayed? From how this Antonio sounds, Probably not. So that means all their kids and grand kids would not exist if she had indeed told her husband about the affair.
While Antonio is right, you can’t think about what could have been, only what is. Every one makes mistakes. While it is a blow, he found out so many years later, with their age…I say let it go, even though it may be difficult.